What Do We Mean By Honesty in a Relationship?
When it comes to romantic relationships, what is the most important thing you look for in a person? Although many will have a different answer, the one thing that tops the list for most people (or at least makes their top 3!) is honesty. I agree, honesty is very important. It’s one of the most important aspects of a relationship. However, we must ask ourselves, “What do we mean when we say that we want honesty from another person?” Most people mean that they want someone who “won’t lie to them” or “keep secrets,” but the question of honesty goes beyond lying and secrets. Honest Honesty I have worked with many individuals who come into therapy because they are unhappy in their relationship. They share with me what makes them unhappy about their loved one, meaning what that person does or doesn’t bring to the relationship. When I ask the question, “Does your partner know how you feel?” the answer is almost always, “No.” There are many reasons they haven’t shared how they feel.
